Many couples feel like they have closed something after their wedding, when in fact they are starting something: their marriage! How do you keep that feeling of love and enjoy being married every day and keep that post-wedding honeymoon period going as long as possible?
Post-wedding, you suddenly have a lot of time on your hands, because you don’t have to spend any more time arranging and organising the wedding. On the one hand, this is great, because you have time again for your hobbies, but on the other hand, you may fall into a ‘black hole’ after the wedding, because you do not have a clear goal together. The first thing to remember is that this is just a feeling, and not a reality.
It’s best to start to reframe your perspective. Instead of an empty time, think of the post-wedding weeks as a special time. Yes, the wedding is over, but that also means that your marriage has started! So make sure you enjoy every day together. Keep surprising each other, starting with the first day after the wedding to ensure that everlasting domestic bliss – even if that just means being extra helpful when you need to spend the day at the venue clearing it out.
Make sure you come home to a cosy and tidy house. Nothing is more annoying than coming home to a messy house and not being able to relax after a long day, a post-wedding hangover, or a week away on honeymoon. You can make the living room extra cosy and create a nice fresh scent by putting some flowers in the room.
The right lighting also plays a major role in creating a romantic atmosphere, so have some romantic candles at the ready. If you have a chimney make sure you have some wood and fire starter prepared. This way, you can enjoy a romantic first evening together with a glass of wine by the fireplace.
As a newly married couple, you naturally spend a lot of time together in the bedroom. The bedroom is your own private sanctuary in your home, away from any guests or children you may have. The bedroom is also where your day begins and ends, and can set the tone for your day. So it’s nice to feel comfortable in your own bedroom, and the interior of the bedroom is integral to this.
Make sure the bed smells clean and looks attractive. A new set of matching duvet covers (perhaps from your wedding registry) will certainly contribute to the atmosphere. And of course, make sure you hang the best wedding photo on the bedroom wall. That way, you can look back on that unique moment every day!
Get your first day as a married couple off to a good start!
Post-wedding, you certainly get a free pass to sleep in for a long time. But after that, it’s time for a well-deserved and tasty breakfast. So, make sure you have the ingredients ready a nice breakfast at home or have somewhere booked for brunch.
If you have the energy we think it’s romantic to prepare a sumptuous brunch and enjoy the afterglow of the wedding day together, perhaps opening your wedding gifts and cards.
Tip: It’s absolutely worth writing a list of who gave what for the thank you notes as you go.
It’s very possible in the coming days you might be off on honeymoon with just yourselves, so it’s a great time to catch up with friends and family before you go. This is a great chance to talk about the wedding and see some early pictures from guests on the day. It can take a few weeks to see the official photography, so your social media will be the best place to see all the pictures.
And there is likely a list of things to do post-wedding which you need to complete, possibly including:
- Checking with the venue to ensure no lost property
- Arrange for the wedding dress to be cleaned and stored
- Writing thank you notes
- Legally change names if required, and contact relevant parties (like work, HRMC, banks, DVLA, passport office, doctors, dentist, etc)
What’s the best thing that you did to beat the post-wedding blues? Let us know down below.